WEBINAR VIDEO: Destructive Intimate Relationships and Repair

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PRESENTED BY:  MARK F. SCHWARTZ, Sc.D.  See Bio >>

WHEN AIRED:  FRI. OCT 18, 2024

WHERE:  LIVE ON ZOOM!

COST:  FREE

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CEs:  2.0 with the completion of the online Evaluation Form
2.0 CEs provided with the completion of an online evaluation form. This workshop provides 2.0 CEs. Application made to CEPA for specified hours of Continuing Education Credit for MFTs, LPCCs, LEPs, and LCSWs as is required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.

SUMMARIZED ABSTRACT

Avoidance refers to a tendency to evade intimacy with other people, but also to defend against certain feelings, impulses, memories and needs that arise internally (Lundy, 2023).

Avoidant individuals had to adapt to caregivers who were critical, absent, dismissive, and not able to mirror, by defensively excluding desire for closeness and comfort. Their real self was not mirrored, and the “false self” feels empty and hollow, not allowing for sufficient connection to self or others.

This livecast webinar focuses on treatment strategies that seed the development of the “real self” and a state of greater differentiation and integration, allowing one to live in harmony with one’s own feelings and needs. Application to couples therapy and complementation of different attachment strategies in pair-bonds will be described.

Individuals with avoidant, preoccupied, or disorganized attachment histories often bounce between avoidance of intimacy, in an effort to defend against certain feelings and needs, or strong feelings of dependency in what seems like a childlike state of making up for what they never received from their family. In both polarities, the individuals’ differentiation is often blocked by perceived abuse, neglect, loss, or abandonment.

The choice of a romantic partner is therein a pure example of “reenactment”—a disguised, unconscious attempt to resolve irreconcilable contradictions related to the self’s feeling damaged, defective, and unloveable, which is often related to caretakers not actually being capable of optimal parenting because of their own attachment difficulties.

WEBINAR OBJECTIVES

In this webinar, clinicians will learn state-of-the-art optimal therapy for providing anticipatory guidance for relational dysfunction and repair, related to the following:

  • To use the lens of attachment theory to describe the common issues confronting couples.
  • To describe interventions to deal with avoidance and anxious attachment couple dynamics.
  • To discuss facilitation of using the couple’s relationship to facilitate the individual’s differentiation of self.
  • To illustrate how working with individuals with the partner present facilitates couples intimacy.

RECOMMENDED READING shared by Dr. Mark Schwartz in the webinar:

Helping Couples Change: A Social Learning Approach to Marital Therapy by Richard. Stuart

Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Third Edition by Alan S. Gurman, Neil S. Jacobson, et al

The New Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Julie Schwartz Gottman

After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship by Daniel Wile

Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved (A Guide to Love and Relationships) by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D

Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician’s Guide by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship Later Printing Used Edition by Daniel B. Wile

The Betrayal of the Self: The Fear of Autonomy in Men and Women by Arno Gruen

Search For The Real Self : Unmasking The Personality Disorders Of Our Age Paperback by James F. Masterson

Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart Ph.D.

Attachment and the Defence Against Intimacy: Understanding and Working with Avoidant Attachment, Self-Hatred, and Shame by Linda Cundy

The Transforming Power Of Affect: A Model For Accelerated Change by Diana Fosha

Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair by Daniel P. Brown PhD and David S. Elliott PhD

Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them : When Loving Hurts and You Don’t Know Why by Susan Forward and  Joan Torres

Women Who Hurt Themselves: A Book Of Hope And Understanding by Dusty Miller


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